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Few minutes ago I have been talking to a friend of mine who is also a great fan of my page and she was kindly asking me to tell her how she can get over her now ex-boyfriend. She told me about the worst mistake she had done that messed up her relationship and her entire life which was irreparable. The situation she’s currently going through is really touching & painful. So, I decided to come up with this article to help her and all other friends and fans of mine out there on how to get over their heartbreaks
Well, getting over someone that you truly loved is not an easy thing & it can’t be done in one day or night. It’s a process that takes some time depending on the love you had for that person, what they did to you or what you did to them that caused a break up, and your heart. Some people have weak hearts & others have hard/strong hearts. Those with weak hearts take months & years to get over their exes and those with hard hearts, they quickly let go.
But if you want or you are trying to get over your ex, what you got to do first is to accept & believe it that the relationship is over & it ended for a reason. Yeah, they no longer love you; you are no longer boyfriend & girlfriend. They either used you, or they got what they wanted and now they dumped you because you no longer mean a thing to them. Whatever case it is accept it & forgive them. And if the break up was of your own making, maybe you cheated on them, you took their love for granted… whatever you did, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for not being patient, trustworthy, caring, loyal, or understanding. Forgiving yourself will set you free; it will relieve you from anger and the burden of guilty that you are carrying, it will set your heart free from pain & stress and that will be a vital step in your healing process.
The second step is forget them. This is also not an easy thing to do. But you can do it through cutting off the communication with them. Don't contact them (in case they call you or test you, don’t rush to pick up or reply their texts). Because all they are gonna tell you is they wanted to know how you are doing, to say hi, to say sorry or to plead for you to get back to them). But all that is to blind you and to slow down your healing process. Also delete all the messages & pictures of them in your phone, computer or tablet. You can also delete/block your ex on social networks (that is if you can't stand seeing them there). But it’s advisable to keep them there because as time goes by, you will be happy and you’ll need them to see how you will be happy without them. The other thing you can do under this is to remove all the memory triggers. In this I mean all the physical things that remind you of them. The plaques, the watches, shoes, clothes, or any gift they gave you. Don’t return those gifts to them & don't throw them away, just keep them far from your reach.
The third step is keep a distance. Keep a distance from their friends & family members. Don’t contact them, don’t share your pain with them & don’t entertain their conversation that is if they are only telling you about your ex. Only keep around your best friends & family members that know about it. Also don’t venture into places that you used to go in together when you were a happy couple because they will remind you of them and there will be higher chances of meeting them. So keep a distance.
The fourth step is love yourself. Know that you are beautiful (handsome), see value in yourself, respect yourself, have confidence in yourself , know that you are lovable, and know that you mean something to someone out there who is also yearning to be loved. Also eat a balanced diet, make exercises to keep your body in shape and to be healthy, make yourself look good in any possible way.
The fifth step is make yourself busy: Make yourself busy with work, studies or your kid(s). Do something productive in that period. You can go for driving lessons, dancing…you can go for hunting or fishing with your friends, or you can perfect in your skill or talent. Keep yourself busy will save you from over thinking & stressing. But in case you can’t avoid it, then get out your bible and pray to God to give you courage. Trust me He’ll listen to you and He’ll make you strong.
Then the last step is developing the love for the baby or kid(s) that is if you have one/some with your ex. This mostly applies to the ladies. Don’t hate the baby/kids that you got from your ex because they are blessing from God. Surely it’s a gift because many people (women) are out there and they can't have one. They pray day and night to God to help them get one but their prayers are in vain. So, know that you are lucky & blessed. Love your child/children & care about them. Don’t let them test the pain that your ex-partner left you with. They are so innocent to test it. Also don’t count your child as an accident though s/he didn’t come from a right person and in the right time but s/he is a blessing.
NOTE: There many other ways that one can use to get over someone that they truly loved but these are first six sure points that everyone should apply or follow. I myself when I was broken hearted by my ex-girlfriend, I applied the same tips and trust me I managed to fix my heart again and I moved on with my life. I’m so happy now. You too you will make it and you’ll be happy again
Otherwise, thanks for reading this article and I pray it helps you get over that heartbreak you are going through right now or you will go through with time. You know it’s an avoidable. It’s part of life.
Author : Prince Yourme Yourmex
Really useful. Thanks the author for the post. Keep writing!
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