I have discovered that love
doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship. Love cannot help you stick to
one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a
product of not loving your partner. In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee
not falling in love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly
because of our head not our heart. It works out because of our emotional
maturity, empathetic intelligence and self-discipline because, time will come
when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich,
curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help
you; self-control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your
rescue and commitment will keep you going.
With those characteristics, no
matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank
first in your life.
You think happily married people
don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel
funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? They do!
But understanding that commitment
is greater than feelings is the great arsenal that do destroy that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone,
but building a relationship takes absolutely more than what attracted you to
them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when
it's convenient and sweet. We are too fond of loving when love is there but
that can only last for just the first 3-6 months of the relationship. After
then, you'll realize that the feelings have dropped, it's now your
responsibility to make it work, not love's responsibility.
Relationships cannot be ready made.
You have to build it and it's never always about love, it requires commitment
and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it's not just love that keeps
them together forever, its determination and commitment.
Everyone falls in love; it takes
little or no effort to do that. But staying in love? Building a relationship? Only
the strong and committed ones do that.
That's why we must find that one
person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.
Building a relationship is hard
work, it's like building a career, and it’s
like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter
but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through
the trying time by being focus and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two
people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be
emotionally strong and be self-disciplined!
Sticking to one person is not
natural, you must develop yourself to do that. It works great and perfect with
people of like minds, people of the same beliefs and people that share the same
school of thought.
May Almighty God guide us all to
the right path.
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